STARS and STRIPES and SPANKING MANTAINENCE: GEORGIA CANE (NYC)

  

Ladies:


This is a reminder from Miss Cane.

Your Alpha male is driven by generous servings of energy, confidence,  curiosity and drive;
and at least,  once upon a time  you found these traits attractive.
They can be again.

The problem is drive turns into overdrive making him nervous, barking and controlling. You may be climbing the walls but he's careening out of control,  praying for someone to hit the brakes and shut off the engine.  That someone is you.  So Ladies as a Disciplinarian,  I strongly suggest for the benefit of his equilibrium - and your own - that you enforce authority.

For example; when least expected, you may order your partner to strip bare and to don an apron. Leather strap in hand, march him to the kitchen and tell him to do some task of your choosing.
Then warn him of the  consequences should he fail to properly complete that task; which, of course,  he won't.

Now you may express your displeasure by bending him over the block; lashing his exposed, bare bottom with a hard, thin belt until pain and tears line his face and raised welts mark his bruised and tender skin.
And always remember Ladies,  it's enough only when you say it is; and not a second before.

But when the spanking ends and you soothe his burn and wipe his tears away,  he's rebalanced relieved and grateful.  That means you've established your authority and that all your headaches are at an end  (until thedoit-orelse.blogspot.com next time anyway).

                                    HAPPY INDEPENDENCE LADIES
                                                 





Warm Bottoms,
Georgia Cane

www.georgiacane.com

 NYC Spanking Disciplinarian

SPANKING DISCIPLINE IS TAKING CHARGE: GEORGIA CANE (NYC)

For a while,  I felt strongly I'd said all about spanking I needed to say.  I was wrong.
Whether it is role play, age regression or addressing issues which are disrupting or hindering your life,  seeking Spanking Discipline is about one thing and one thing only; taking charge.  By that I mean YOU are taking charge of your life.

Just as doctors don't heal themselves, we can't be objective enough to see ourselves clearly; and when it comes to corporal punishment or strict behavioral correction, trust me that, no matter how determined you may be, you will not go much beyond the comfort zone.  Even in role play of any kind, you must be seen through the eyes of an authority who appreciates and fully participates in the experience.  A disciplinarian must key into both what's said and, more importantly, what's unsaid.

Focus and respect are key to ending self-destructive patterns of behavior  - from procrastination to abuse -  or for some, to clearly revisit the crux of a profound, life-directing event either left unaddressed or which held you in good stead.

In essence,  spanking discipline is self-discipline. One must cede control to a mature and savvy authority but one who will not suffer foolishness nor excuse wrong behavior but instead holds you accountable and makes you feel the consequences of wrongdoing.  That way the penalty is paid, your conscience is clear. You're left with a renewed energy, a clearer head,  clean slate,  a nicely burning bottom. And that's what it means to take charge.

Warm Bottoms,
Georgia Cane

www.georgiacane.com


NYC Spanking

SPANKING DISCIPLINE IS MARRIAGE COUNSELING THAT WORKS (New York City , NY)

It's my belief, as a Disciplinarian, that traditional couples therapy is often not effective.  That's because it fails to deal squarely on two key issues - consideration and accountability  - and they're important. 

Mother began teaching you, at an early age, to be nice, play fair; and to share your toys with playmates.  Back then, if  she caught you snatching things from your little friends hands, just to made them cry, or hit people- especially a boy hitting a girl - she took you over her knee, pulled down your underwear pants and spanked your bare bottom smartly.  While, I'm sure, you didn't appreciate this at the time, you understand today the merits of generosity and fair play  that your mother instilled. I believe those same lessons should apply in all the relationships in your life -  including marriage.

In the beginning, marriage can be exciting;  almost as if  your partners are your brand new toys. But then, like everything new, their shine gets dull and what was exciting once is for granted now. You become insensitive and say whatever you like. You will not play fair, you want everything your way - no matter what - and  you refuse to compromise. You may even be downright stingy and  bear in mind, this  goes for you both. Truth be told, it's not discussing who pushed who first which is important here - it's the lack of discipline - and that's why you both need spanking.

Because, unless your partner is a control freak, bully or vampire ( in which case, you should be spanked  for staying)  your issues can be resolved but traditional therapy may actually raise more problems than solve.  On the other hand, Spanking Discipline is simple.  

First: Admit to what you do to annoy each other. 
Second: In front of your spouse; take your punishment.  

From watching you receive your comeuppance, they can finally witness justice being served and administered without a hint of favoritism.

 Even, the best therapist can be charmed by a husband and  dislike a wife ( or vice versa ) but it takes two to tango. Nor will you be  truly held accountable without consequences and therapists don't judge. They're trained to be passive and understand - even validate - the most willfully errant behavior.  It's my opinion, saying things like, "I see and how does that make you feel" is a waste of time  and sends the wrong message.

When it comes to behavioral correction, I believe that actions speak louder than words - and for couples that don't play fair, strict, impartial punishment the is equalizer required. If you've been wrong and you know it, I won't ask you how you feel.  I will make it my business to know exactly how you feel.  When my bare hand makes contact with your bare behind,  you will feel in pain and very sorry. 


One in front of the other, I'd  take you over my knee, or a bench and  spank your bottoms with my hand or my belt. You may get paddled, tawsed or caned as well, and the implement used will all depend on the deed. 

You've now gotten to observe while your partner is punished. You are validated, vindicated and satisfied that justice is served.  More importantly however, simultaneous punishment at the hands of a Disciplinarian, is a bonding experience which actually  strengthens the relationship. 

Because enduring corporal punishment on your behave, is perhaps the most sincere expression of apology. The two of you leave connected, affectionate and more inclined to  "play nice" than ever before. 

Then you can compare your well spanked and nicely burning bottoms.

That's couple therapy that works.






Warm Bottoms, 
Georgia Cane 



Georgia Cane: Disciplinarian

GEORGIA CANE: WHY ADULT SPANKING DISCIPLINE is EFFECTIVE (New York City , NY)

"In it's function, the power to punish is not essentially different 
from that of curing or educating."

-  Micheal Foucault

I believe spanking is administered to  punish, teach and instill self discipline in order to raise a well mannered, socially adjusted, successful individual. 

One of the first lessons a child learns is to obey authority, for it's own sake and without explanation. In other words, "...because I said so."  In time,  they will come to understand the reason   why playing on the train tracks, or wondering off alone is a punishable offense.  The spanking was done to keep the child safe.
  
Still a child will test authority and a mother who makes threats, too often, to spank her child, will begin to lose authority. She is (unconsciously) sending a message that she's not to be taken seriously. 

But the most absurd method of behavioral correction of all, is to  reason with a young child in the throws of a tantrum.  How many times have we seen a  child of five or six  screaming and flailing around, while the mother attempts to "reason" with him as though he were fourteen?  Of course, this accomplishes nothing more than to make the child even angrier and more aggressive; and sometimes enough to give her a kick in the leg.  Here's why. 

Children have a need to  feel safe and to know that  the woman in control of their lives is strong and able to protect them. For this reason, instinctively, they will test and  if she is easily intimidated, they feel threatened by, and vulnerable to world around them.

By the same token, if a child acts out in public and the mother pulls him off of the floor and spanks his bottom  -  then and there  -  he eventually  calms down. The reason is the same.  He knows he's in strong capable hands;  boundaries will not be crossed; and  he is safe. The same holds true for adults.   

Grownups  act out too, although (hopefully) in more subtle ways.  
They  test the boundaries, procrastinate, fib, sass, throw tirades and indulge in various other  willfully, unacceptable behaviors. 

Adults need to be reminded that there are consequences to paid when they do things that are potentially harmful.  

I am a firm believer, that a good, old fashioned  spanking  to tears and  little beyond  - is  effective discipline at 6  or 60. 

In my experience, children of any age, must realize they are to behave and know that they're in the hands of a strong and capable woman.  

The more things change, the more they remain the same. 

 Warm Bottoms, 
Georgia Cane

www.georgiacane.com