When "the one" in your life is out of control, it's up to you to give them a grounding; and in some
cases, this means no less than a good, solid, no nonsense, bottom burning spanking to tears and beyond.
I'm of the opinion that whether you use a bare hand (my personal favorite) belt, tawse, rattan cane, leather paddle, hairbrush or wooden spoon, a good over- the-knee spanking will do more to correct bad behavior than all the scolding, lectures and threats in the world. That's why it's always the last resort.
An authentic domestic disciplinary spanking has no safe words. Mothers, teachers, aunts and governesses didn't adhere to your pleads for mercy (for that matter, nor do I) and it is administered on the bottom - only.
Spanking is Nature's version of shock treatment therapy - minus the damage. After a few hard, backside stinging smacks commence, minds blank, endorphins release and cobwebs clear. In my experience, I've found Seventy-Five hard and rapid, bare handed spanks on the bare, will succeed in getting their attention.
Then, eventually, calm replaces tears, physical pain is almost forgotten and all that remains is the message. After one or two of these experiences, his bad behavior will be effectively altered, if not changed completely.
Making allowances for your partner's naughtiness is not responsible, but if you can't bring yourself to give him a spanking, then find someone who can. See to it that he stay on the straight and narrow, is productive, well mannered - and Spanked.